Dear Abby: I’m stuck taking care of my wife instead of being with the woman I want

DEAR ABBY: I’m a man younger than my age married to a woman who is older than hers. Ten years ago, we couldn’t get along, so we separated. While separated, I met a wonderful woman, “Cynthia.” We became friends with benefits and fell in love.

A year later, my wife got cancer. Since her family lived out of state and had lives of their own, I moved back in to take care of her. After eight years of battling her cancer, she has recovered. She can no longer drive or do heavy tasks and needs a walker. Mentally and physically, she’s not ready for a nursing home.