Dear Abby: My husband has Alzheimer’s, and his puttering around is driving me crazy

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 59 years. As he has gotten older, he has less to do to keep himself busy, and he no longer drives due to Alzheimer’s. He is now doing things inside the house without asking my opinion, including moving things around.

Abby, as the woman of the house, this has always been my role. He is now trying to take over, which irritates me no end. He washes every dirty dish even though the dishwasher is empty, and I have to watch him after I caught him washing them without soap a couple of times.